I've been lately working with all my kids on helping them build a stronger, positive mental constitution. We work out together, we discuss the events of our days and we discuss current events. I HIGHLY discourage negativity, teasing and self-loathing. There is no use comparing ourselves to someone else or to calling out each others flaws and weaknesses. We accept shortcomings. They are there. We know it. We move on.
When we work out, we commonly play basketball together. One of the little nuggets I was taught when I was coached earlier in life was that when shooting around, you never leave the court on a miss.
In other words. always leave on a make.
Its sort of Zen thing. Leave the basketball court on a swish (a made shot for those that are not familiar this thought). Don't leave on a missed shot. Always leave on a positive—on a win. It helps make the workout and the experience a positive one.
It goes hand-in-hand with some of these other favorites of mine:
• Always say I love you to at least one person you care about every night
• Do at least one thing everyday that makes you feel good
• Have a Hobby or life passion… then add another one. Repeat.
• Do at least one thing, every year, you've never done before
• Reject bad habits, embrace good ones
• Surround yourself with people that bring you up–release the rest
• Learn the rules before breaking them
• Create something
… and of course, always leave on a make.